Let me have my friends over, dammit
Apr. 14th, 2026 08:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
seapicklesupremacy Was just thinking about how funny it is that I'm not allowed to have boys or "people with penises" 💀 in my room now, even though I'm an adult versus when I was a kid and I could have all the male friends over that I wanted.
I think from my parents' perspective, nothing sexual was happening when you're like 10. We still played with teddies, for goodness' sake, so I was in the clear to have them over. It was only when I got my first real girlfriend + I told them I got assaulted by my brother that they went "uh uh uh NO PENISES IN YOUR ROOM EVER" Lmaooo
I asked my mother what was her reasoning for such an archaic rule and her answer was two-fold. One was about not having anything sexual happening in her house (too late 💀, but also you know I'm going to be engaging in sex regardless, why would you take away a safe place to practice it, but whatever). My house is such a sexless place, when I mentioned I had sex with my girlfriend before we started dating to my mother, she was mortified and seemed so shocked, shocked I tell you!, that her teen/YA child had sex with a trusted individual 😱 😱 😱 Oh the horror 🙄
Her second reason is more understandable, but deeply misguided. She said it's to avoid getting raped. Well, I still did despite her efforts, so pin that in your brain somewhere. But also does she realise that penises are not the source of all rape?? Rape tendencies aren't stored in the balls 🫩 I explained that even if she banned my male/penis-haver friends from being in my room alone with me, I could still get raped by a female friend. You don't need a penis to get raped by someone, and to assume so is sexist. Even then, the people I bring into my room are people I trust. You want to worry about me getting assaulted, start within your own walls instead of worrying about the people I bring in.
I think from my parents' perspective, nothing sexual was happening when you're like 10. We still played with teddies, for goodness' sake, so I was in the clear to have them over. It was only when I got my first real girlfriend + I told them I got assaulted by my brother that they went "uh uh uh NO PENISES IN YOUR ROOM EVER" Lmaooo
I asked my mother what was her reasoning for such an archaic rule and her answer was two-fold. One was about not having anything sexual happening in her house (too late 💀, but also you know I'm going to be engaging in sex regardless, why would you take away a safe place to practice it, but whatever). My house is such a sexless place, when I mentioned I had sex with my girlfriend before we started dating to my mother, she was mortified and seemed so shocked, shocked I tell you!, that her teen/YA child had sex with a trusted individual 😱 😱 😱 Oh the horror 🙄
Her second reason is more understandable, but deeply misguided. She said it's to avoid getting raped. Well, I still did despite her efforts, so pin that in your brain somewhere. But also does she realise that penises are not the source of all rape?? Rape tendencies aren't stored in the balls 🫩 I explained that even if she banned my male/penis-haver friends from being in my room alone with me, I could still get raped by a female friend. You don't need a penis to get raped by someone, and to assume so is sexist. Even then, the people I bring into my room are people I trust. You want to worry about me getting assaulted, start within your own walls instead of worrying about the people I bring in.
